Nobody’s right or wrong just because majority of people say they are right or wrong. Who has said this or something similar? I don’t seem to recollect. But I do think being different is not necessarily being wrong. Am I right?
Why do we express ourselves, just for the heck of it, just because we want to start a fight to vent our frustration or because we are looking forward to those replies so that we feel that we are also being heard and replied to by somebody out there? I myself am expressing all this right now simply because it’s going on for far too long and it just got too much to handle. I had to vent it out.
People express themselves. They comment on current affairs, they have their suggestions, remarks, opinions, recommendations etc... I talk to them. I talk to them about this. We have discussions. We have arguments. I try achieving a truce by saying that what you say is your opinion, what somebody else is saying is their opinion. I am saying my opinion. You are saying your opinion.
In spite of getting tired of using the same word again n again n again n again, why do 90% people don’t understand a simple word called opinion? If somebody’s saying something, why do you have to attack (attack need not be taken literally here) him/her, if you don’t agree with it? Just like you have the right to have one, they have the right to have one too. It’s just their opinion, it’s not the end of the world, and definitely not something which gives you the right to attack him/her.
But the worst part is yet to come. When I try to tell them – or should I use the “keyword” – express myself about this, they start to ridicule me! Whoo-ah!! Till that moment, I wasn’t even a part of their world. I was just an inconsequential somebody. But then at this moment, I suddenly become the great Mr. Damle who is trying to preach others! People either take me too lightly or they discard me from the conversation as an extremely serious person. Awesome. I sometimes don’t understand why the hell I bother to express myself? Is freedom of expression worth all that if it’s going to be ridiculed upon and not taken seriously?
There are so many times when I feel that I don’t seem to fit in. I just don’t. I studied the expression “lonely in the crowd” so many times in school, college etc, but never really felt it as starkly as I do these days. May be I am at the wrong place at the wrong time. May be I am not adaptable enough. Whatever may be the reasons, the bottom line remains that I, for sure, suffer due to this brilliant expression exercise.
So what do I do? Good question. I think I have found out an answer to that, an effective one at least for the time being. Its going to be my useless talent no. 67: Keeping my opinion to myself. Freedom of expression is not worth it.
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ReplyDeleteHey now, if i say your venting frustration is fine on one hand but you saying freedom of expression is not worth it - a little far fetched; would i be enforcing my opinion on you or just expressing my opinion on the subject? I remain confused on that front, nevertheless, unabashed i continue... :)
ReplyDeleteI feel, in the end the cliched 'jo mann mein hai woh bol he do', works!.. I mean the conflicts that are a result of expressing ones emotions/opinions are far easier to handle than those that remain confined in the mind.And when we agree, each one has a right to personal opinion, we should try and understand that many use it in fashions that we wouldn't always agree..but what the heck..we express,they express; we debate,they debate; who wins,well who cares?
The need to do this comes to us, being the 'Argumentative Indians', like Amartya Sen calls us,that we really are. No wrong or right in that.
Express by all means, Opine by all means...its worth all the time & energy!
(in case my comment has frustrated you even further, i have accomplished a goal, coz then i'd get to comment again as you revert back on this one ;) )